Contrary to popular belief, becoming bar mitzvah or bat mitzvah isn’t all about chanting the Torah.
The essence of this great rite of passage is taking ownership of our Jewish Wisdom tradition. That means learning what the Torah is and what it’s all about, with enough breadth and depth to be able to say a short D’var Torah – a meaningful and personal Torah wisdom lesson. Depending on the child, the learning may span a period of 12-20 weeks.
The Backyard Bar Mitzvah program begins with a weekly Zoom study session with a Rabbi to introduce your child to Torah and help him or her discover meaningful personal connections to our people’s ancient books of wisdom.
The celebration can be held in your literal backyard or any venue that your family finds comfortable (country club, etc.) — anywhere in the world. Family and friends will gather to hear inspiring words from the child, the parents, and of course the Rabbi. Everyone will enjoy music, good food, uplifting speeches and meaningful blessings.
Q: What denomination of Judaism is this program affiliated with?
A: Backyard Bar Mitzvah is a non-denominational “Torah” program (not “religious”);
we tailor the study and ceremony to the needs and expectations of Jewish families of all flavors.
Q: Who’s actually running this program?
A: BYB is a project of JSLI – click on the link at the bottom of this page to learn about our organization.
Q: How much guidance will you give my child in writing the speech (Dvar Torah)?
A: As much as your child needs. Bar or bat mitzvah prep is a blend of teaching, coaching and mentoring.
Q: How much guidance will you give the parents and family in preparing for the big day?
A: As much as you need. We’re here for you every step of the way.
Q: In what geographic locations do you offer the program?
A: Thanks to Zoom, it doesn’t matter where you’re located.
The celebration can be anywhere on earth safe to travel to.
Q: What kind of feedback have you received from participants?
A: “Just what our child/family needed!” is typical. Even 10 years later, the now-adult children tell us that the backyard bar mitzvah was a significant milestone on their Jewish journey, giving them a meaningful introduction to the Torah, a lifetime connection to the Jewish People, and a great sense of achievement.
Q: Can you provide references?
A: Certainly; please ask.
Q: Can you convince my reluctant child to do this program?
A: Usually!
Q: Do you offer a program for adults who never had a bar or bat mitzvah?
A: Yes! You’re never too old to claim your Jewish heritage!
Q: What are the details?
A: We will have a 30-minute Zoom meeting to discuss the range of possibilities.
As a not-for-profit educational program, our aim is to serve, not to sell a product.
Backyard Bar Mitzvah is a not-for-profit project of JSLI.
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